The second important thing Ellen with learn from her tragic experience, is a strong sensitivity to emotional pain in other people. Unfortunately, you can’t understand and know this, without going through the intense pain yourself. It is a pain so ravaging that you would not wish it upon your worst enemy. It hurts so bad and so deep, that it is at times unbearable.
On the other side, you show more empathy to people in pain. You also are much more hesitant to be the cause of pain in someone else. Because of the tribulation you have encountered, you become less selfish, you become more caring, you are transformed into a much better person than you were before.
You also are better able to comfort others in distress. You have experienced the worst and survived. You have been to Hell, and returned. Your sensitivity enables you to know what do, know what to say and know “how to be there” when someone needs you to be there.
Some people would say that is the reason why you went through the tragedy, but I would still say there is no reason for something this horrible to be bestowed upon anyone. There cannot be a purpose behind this. It is more the result of what happened. A result we do have control over after the utter helplessness of the awful event. You see, we must all travel on The Road even after tragedy strikes without warning, but it is how we walk that makes the difference.